The Truth About Negative Thinking

I was talking to my friend the other day, and I told her about endless opportunities that life can give us. And that she can become a millionaire in a year, for example. She was just laughing and didn't take me seriously. But then I made a joke and said that she might lose her job tomorrow. Immediately she got very serious and scared. For her it was like event already took place.

I started to think about it. I found it interesting that we cannot usually believe in positive events coming our way but we are so afraid of something that we judge as negative. We are so focused on survival that we cannot even assume that life can actually be good! If you don't believe me, try to make the same experiment with your friends, or with your own mind, ha-ha. How many of them will accept the bright future and won't be afraid of some dramatic scenario?

One of the main function of our brain is to keep us alive. If we were not careful thousands of years ago, even 100 years ago, we wouldn't survive. Our poor ancestors had to worry about everything, there life was full of day-to-day dangers: tiger could eat them, weather could destroy their house, finding food was quite unpredictable. Of course they had to spend almost all of their time trying to save themselves.

And we still have the same brain nowadays. We still have our instincts. And we use them unconsciously sometimes (well, most of the times). But is life really that bad? Is it really that dangerous? Why do we get stressed so easily because of getting fired or because of divorce? How do we know that life will not give us something better instead of an old job or an old husband? Why is it so hard to believe in something good?

I am not sure why to be honest but I have my own hypotheses. I believe that we act this way because we pay more attention to the events that we judge as negative or threatening. Our brain wants us to avoid any danger and it focuses on stuff that can ruin our wellbeing. And as I said a lot of times it happens unconsciously. It's a simple (well, maybe not very simple) mechanism of survival. It all makes sense and it is great that we have it. But OMG life is not that scary! Of course sometimes we do suffer, and, you know - stuff happens. But a lot of times our own imagination and judgments create negativity.

When we are stressed our brain is not very creative. If it is not very creative, it is harder to find a solution. So it is better to learn how to be resilient and positive.

Rule number one is to accept the fact that you don't really know most of the things. You don't know what other people think, you don't know how they will act, you don't even know what will your own mind bring up in the next 30 minutes, what your reaction could be, and how will you change in a year or two. Let's say your boyfriend left you. This is devastating, I know. Nothing pleasant. And your first reaction is to cry, maybe try to get him back, or desperately try to find a new man. And I would tell you - the stuff which is done out of fear of pain never works. If you were not able to deal with the situation and just jumped from one relationship to another, if you let yourself be mad and sad for more than a day because of the event - you are in trouble. You create negativity, you release stress hormones, you cannot think clearly, etc. What good can come from that? So what do I suggest? I suggest to look at the situation with understanding the truth. And the truth is that life is kind, and whatever it gives you is for the best. Maybe you will find another boyfriend in a couple of months. Or maybe your ex-boyfriend will change his mind? Everything could happen! So instead of creating negative future in your head, think positive! This happy attitude will give you a lot of energy. Use it for your self-development and by the time your ex comes back to you, or new man appears on horizon, you will be strong, smart, happy, kind and peaceful - perfect partner for anyone! And this idea of positive attitude works in business, sport, relationships, and in your day-to-day activities!

I also think that negative thoughts are coming from not knowing what your deepest desire is. And you get lost in your ego’s likes and dislikes. But once you figure out why are you here and what your soul wants, you become free from all these worries! You know that Universe will give you everything you need and you just follow your heart instead of getting stressed over unimportant things or events.

What is your deepest desire? Figure it out and be free! ☺️

Be Strong And Love Yourself!

From Dasha with love!