If You Are Going Through The Breakup

Hi Everyone!

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Today I want to share my thoughts on how to go through the breakup. It can be very painful but I hope some of my ideas will help you.

First of all I think you should focus on yourself. Try to observe your own thoughts, your own feelings. A lot of times after the breakup we think too much about our ex-partner's behavior, his or her actions, and so on. But in this difficult period you need to help yourself, not your ex. You need to find out what would be better for you. And if you want to help yourself you need to understand yourself. You need to know why do you get upset. Most of the times we are just afraid that we won't be able to handle the situation. We get scared and this fear takes our energy. If someone comes over and tell you: I can read your future and I know that this event was for the best and soon you will meet the person of your life, you wouldn't be so upset, because you wouldn't be so scared. Don't wait for someone to take away your fears. Just use your own will and don't listen to them :-)

Meditation helps to be more focused, but it takes time. It won't give you the immediate effect unfortunately. It will help you to be more calm and resilient if you keep meditating every day.

Everything takes time. And when your heart is broken you do need time to heal it. Sometimes we are trying to find a new partner right away, but it is not always easy. And by chasing something you can hurt yourself even more. If you just focus on yourself and your personal growth you cannot lose. It is nice to give yourself a break from relationships for a while. And if you meet someone accidentally be thankful! Most of the times we get what we want when we least expect it :-)

Remind yourself that it will pass. All your sorrow and suffering will not stay forever. There is no person in this world who hasn't lost someone he or she loved. But we move on. Life keeps going. And you can overcome tough period faster if you remember that it will pass.

Try to be creative and focus on some activities that bring you joy! It can be your hobby, some crafts, art, blogging, maybe you can take some classes. When we left alone we have a lot of fears. And these fears need to be replaced by love. And when you create something that you love, you generate a good energy within you! We all have things we are passionate about, try to focus on yours!

Be healthy! A lot of people lose sleep, or start drinking after a breakup, or they eat tons of pizza or something. But if you want to decrease the period of time when you are upset you need to take care of your health. When you are tired, you have bad thoughts. If you eat healthy, working out, reading fun books and having a good sleep, most likely you will have less negative thoughts than you can have when you wake up with hangover. Don't make your life more complicated than it already is!

I think it is very important to understand that even if the person you loved the most in your life left you, it doesn't mean that you are not okay. Happiness doesn't come from one source. It is everywhere. But sometimes we don't want to let it in, because we are too focused on our sorrow. My family and my friends always are there for me. I am sure you have someone who cares about you too. But we often don't value these people who want to support us and take them for granted. Don't do that. Be thankful for every kind heart, every smile you meet on your way!

I believe in God. And I believe that he always helps me. And that he knows better what is good for me! This thought helps me to stay calm. He forgives us and he cares about us. And you can just surrender to his will and he will fix all your problems. When you are trying to fix them, you waste too much energy and get exhausted. When you give it to God (or you can say Universe or Quantum Field), you stop creating action plans on how to get your ex back or how to find a new partner. And you don't get too tired of all this thinking. When you are stressed your mind almost never can give you a good advice. So it is better to give your problem to some greater intelligence and just enjoy your life, enjoy people you love, hobbies that you like, enjoy the weather, the nature, sky, music, fun activities! Life gives you something great every day. You just need to be open to it, to be grateful!

Give your love to people around you! And you will see how this love will get back to you!

It is hard to go through the breakup, but please don't make it even harder for yourself. It is your choice whether you want to enjoy your life here and now or you want to be upset because of past event or fears about future. As I said it will pass anyway. I knew couples who broke-up and got back together and built even better relationships than they used to have before. And some of my friends found their dream partner after a very painful breakup. You never know what will be tomorrow. So take care of today and be ready for a nice surprise when you least expect it ;-)

Be Strong And Love Yourself!

From Dasha With Love!