My Dream!

Do you have a dream?..

If someone asks me this question I would say that I do. And if you ask me what is my biggest dream, I would say: to be with the man that I love! This is my number one desire! But unfortunately it is related to other person and I cannot really control its implementation. But there is something interesting about this dream. The inability to make it come true pushed me to work on other areas of my life much harder. As I couldn't get what I wanted the most, I experienced pain and needed to get rid of it somehow. This was the reason I stepped into my journey of self-development. It's been a while since I started to work on myself. And I can see some results of this work now in terms of the level of self-discipline that I was able to achieve. I always say "Be Strong And Love Yourself". This is my main rule, this is my way to happiness! But what does it mean to love yourself? It means to do not the things you want to do, but the things which are good for you in the long run.

I have been training my brain for about 4 years already. And the more mindful I am, the more productive I become. You need to train your brain in order to achieve something. And it took me almost 4 years to see the results of my practice, of my researches, reading books, listening to the teachers, taking classes, etc. It always looked like I never had any problems besides relationships, and that is why I always was so focused on the man that I loved. I have a nice job, I live in a great area, I have loving family and friends, my health is almost ideal, I rarely have any issues with it, I look pretty. I mean I really don't have any problems in life accept my love life.

This comfort always made me a little bit too relaxed. On other hand, the pain that I experienced because of unrequited love used to take away all of my energy. And this situation lasted for a pretty long period of time. But the more pain I had, the stronger I have become. Little by little I pushed my limits, I built the wisdom and understanding. And at some point I just accepted the fact that I loved the man who didn't love me back, and I just couldn't stop loving him. When I jumped into this ugly reality I actually cured myself! I stopped waisting energy on something that I couldn't change and as other areas of my life were so successful, I was able to find some time to think about my life and what I can do about it to use fully my potential.

This is so interesting! When I didn't want to accept the reality I suffered. When I told to myself: "Dasha, you love him, you cannot stop loving him, this is your reality" I actually stopped feeling so bad. And the most important thing was that I switched my focus from the part of my life that I couldn't change, to the sectors where I could make a difference!

I am still dreaming about my baby, he is the best man in the world for me! But I am not going to do anything about that. I trust God and I believe that he created this situation for me for a reason and he will solve it for me when the time is right. I believe that my love was given to me so I can grow. I like the quote by Thich Nhat Hanh:

- "But suffering is a kind of mud to help the lotus flower of happiness grow. There can be no lotus flower without the mud.”

I was working the other day on one exercise from the book "No Excuses" by Brian Tracy. I was answering the questions that he has in the end of the first chapter, and I could feel how this realization of my reality pushes me to be focused on my own goals more than on my biggest dream. I knew that if I stopped working on myself I would be in pain. The more I use my potential, the better I feel!

I do have one more dream! And I didn't know about it just because I was too crazy about my dream number one! Instead of working on something that I had control of, I was resisting the reality and trying to get what I couldn't. I can only see it now. And I am very thankful for the difficulties that I had. I can feel that everything goes the way it should be, and that if I don't cross my own way, I will be fine in the end! Now I am going to work hard on my dream number two. So what is it? It is my dream job, my dream occupation! You can call it whatever. I want to be a designer, but I don't want to sell clothes. I just want to create something for myself and share it through social media with others, to inspire creative people all over the world! And I know that I have everything I need in order to make this dream come true!

So the plan is to work on my self-discipline, first of all. I also need to learn how to make my own patterns. And after that I should learn how to create new designs from my patterns, which are also called slopers. I am taking a class about social media marketing, I hope it will help me to promote my blog and social media profiles. As you can see I got the idea of what I needed to be focused on and I must say it has never been so structured before. I am in a little shock right now of how simple the plan is. And I can clearly see that the success depends on my self-discipline only. And my self-discipline equals my self-love. I care about myself a lot and I want the best life for me. I must work hard and I am willing to pay the price!

I feel much less fear now just because I know what I need to do. My mind doesn't go crazy thinking about action plans that I need to take. It is too busy. Now my consciousness is in control and I am not the slave of my own mind anymore.

I will share with you all the new things that I am going to learn in the area of sewing and design. I am very excited! To me it is like a new adventure has just begun! So much fun!

I am so thankful for the love that I have in my heart, I am thankful that I am able to be honest with myself and that I have the courage to move forward and create something new! I have never been so confident in my entire life!

Be Strong And Love Yourself!

Love Wins!

From Dasha With Love!