How To Handle Emotional Pain.

Hi Everyone!

Thank you for stopping by my blog! As you can see I chose not the funniest topic for today's post. But I think it is important to know how you can help yourself if you experience emotional pain. Sometimes we don't know how to handle it and we end up doing something that can cause us even more troubles in future.

Here is the link to my YouTube Video: How To Handle Emotional Pain.

Please remember that nothing is permanent and any pain will go away eventually. But while you experiencing it, you can take some useful actions, which will help you to sty away from troubles.

What is the emotional pain? To me it is the pain caused by bad thoughts. When they are so mean that you start to experience unpleasant sensations in different parts of your body. I usually feel it in my head and my chest area. If the pain is caused by thoughts it means that you can control it and you can stop it. You just need to learn how to get detached from your own thoughts.

I want to start with my number one rule! When you are in pain, please don't try to solve your problems. When you are stressed and disturbed you will not be able to find the solution and most likely the ideas that will come to your mind will cause you problems in future. So try first to calm down first and then take actions.

So what helps me to calm down? I created a list for myself, this is like a first aid. This list will not solve my problems, but these things help me to come back to present moment and don't get sucked into my mean thoughts.

Please keep in mind that this is very personal, people are different and what helps me probably will not have any effect on you. But it can give you the idea of what type of list you can create for yourself.

Here is my list!

1. Conscious Breathing. When I notice the formation of mean thoughts, I try to focus on my breath. I notice that I breath in, I notice that I breath out. The more you practice this simple meditation, the easier it will be to get detached from your thoughts. This option is very nice because you can do it everywhere. You can do it when you are cooking, when you are walking, when you are in traffic.

2. Holding The Object. When I start to feel discomfort I like to hug my toys. You can see them on the picture to this post :-) I know that this is not for everyone. Adults usually don't play with stuffed animals. But My toys are pleasant for my eyes, they are warm and soft, and they calm me down. You can hold any object. It can be your key, a pen or a pencil, maybe your earring. Try to focus on it and feel if it is cold or hot, is it soft or hard. Explore it, put all your attention into this object. This will also help you to stop paying attention to your mean thoughts.

3. Study. I love to study! I love to learn new things! Learning works miracles. It helps me to focus and stop thinking about my imaginary problems. I like to watch classes and to read books.

4. Hobby. Another thing that can help you to switch the focus from bad thoughts is your hobby. I love to sew and sewing is very healing to me. But I noticed that if I work on very easy project it becomes not so helpful. So if I want to calm down I need to pick some challenging project, again, with element of some learning in it. Thanks God in sewing you can learn new things your whole life!

5. Sport. When you work out you release some positive hormones which can increase your level of happiness. Sport can also make you feel better about yourself. A lot of negative thoughts are related to self-esteem issues and sport can fix this problem.

6. Ask For Help. Find someone you trust. Please don't ask for help from some unconscious person who has tons of his own issues. It can make the situation even worse. But if you know someone who is kind and mindful, reach out to this person and ask for help.

All these things are helpful, but they cannot change your life. They just help you to keep your energy level in a good shape, to stay focused, to be mindful. But if you want to improve your life in a long run, you will have to put efforts, to take some actions. But this is another story :-)

Please stay mindful and kind! Even in the midst of severe emotional pain, please stay kind!

Be Strong And Love Yourself!

Love Wins!