Start Loving Yourself Now!

Hello my dear readers!

I was looking at my own site couple of days ago and realized that I haven't been talking about self-love for a while. And this is the most important subject to me.

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I forgot how hard it was when I didn't love myself. About 5 or 6 years ago I was thinking that I was not worthy, that I didn't deserve to be loved, that I was not good enough for anybody. I thought that I was not pretty, that I was stupid and not interesting. I only was focused on my mistakes. And I thought of myself as of a bother. I thought that people talked to me only out of pity, but not because they liked me.

It was very hard, I was blaming myself in everything.

Once, one friend of mine asked me to say "I love myself, I am worthy". And I couldn't say it, I couldn't repeat his words. I jut started to cry because I could feel how much I didn't like myself.

I knew that it was not the right way of living my life. Somewhere deep inside I knew that I was not that bad.

I was lucky that I found the class on Coursera - A Life Of Happiness And Fulfillment (ALOHAF). This course helped me to start working on myself, it helped me to realize that if I put efforts, I can change the way I look at things and as a result - change my life.

I started to look for more information about happiness. There are a lot of scientists nowadays who study this subject. And in ALOHAF class I learned about Kristin Neff and the power of self-compassion. Kristin says that you can write compassionate letters to yourself and it will help you to increase your level of happiness. I tried to do that and I felt really good when I was writing these letters.

Then I read a book about self-esteem - The Self-Esteem Workbook by Glenn R. Schiraldi. What I liked about this book was the exercises that you could do. It helped me to store the information in my memory. I highly recommend it for someone who wants to be more confident. I also made a video about unconditional human worth inspired by this book. You can watch it on my YouTube Channel - The foundation Of Self-Love.

Recently I found a podcast by Dr. Robert Puff - Happiness Podcast. And I listened to one of his episodes: Learning From Our Mistakes. What I liked about his speech was the idea that the more you blame yourself the less successful you become. And that if you made a mistake you should learn from it, but learn with love. If you did something wrong and started to call yourself stupid, you will program your mind the way that it won't believe that you can solve the problems. So when you make a mistake, you don't have to think all this bad stuff about yourself. You need to accept the fact that we all fail sometimes, that you will fail again in future, and that sometimes unpleasant things happen. There is no need to be mean to yourself, it will only slow down your progress and as Dr. Puff says, "We are here to grow, we are here to be happy".

I must say that the cultivation of self-love is never-ending process. It is not like you read one book, learned something and you are done for the rest of your life. Unfortunately, you need to feed your brain all the time.

But I do feel that the more I love myself, the better my life becomes. I like to take care of myself. I don't want to do things that can hurt me. I put efforts to find the ways to support myself if something unpleasant happens. I invest my time in getting new knowledge that can make me happy in a long run, and not just for a moment. I try to avoid things that can have negative impact on my well-being. I take care of my health.

One of the most important part of self-love is mindfulness. Please spend some time to understand yourself, to see what is going on inside of your mind, try to learn how to ignore the thoughts that do not serve you. We all have these thoughts, but we all can just don't act on them, we can let them flow through us.

Love gives me energy to do all these things. Sometimes I want to give up and just do nothing. I want to stop working on my blog, I don't want to work out, I want to sit and wait for someone else to come to me and make me happy. But because I love myself, because I care about my future, I can find this strength within me, which is helping me to evolve and be happier!

Love is a skill, we need to learn how to love unconditionally. And the better you are in this skill, the easier your life would be! You are worthy of love!

Be Strong And Love Yourself!

From Dasha With Love!

Love Wins!