How To Work On Your Weaknesses.
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I always say "Be Strong And Love Yourself" in my articles. And I think in order to be strong, you need to know your weaknesses. You need to know them and work on them!
Here is the link to the video for this article: How To Work On Your Weaknesses.
There can be a lot of definitions of weakness. In this article I want to talk about areas of your life where you cannot control yourself, become very emotional and have a lot of fears. I think most of people have these areas, at least one. And it is okay to be weak in certain situations. But it is even better to know your weaknesses and to overcome them!
I want to share my weakness as an example. I still have it, I am in the process of getting stronger in this area. And my weakness is lying the field of romantic relationships, love. So what does it mean? It looks as follows: when I hear stories about relationships, cheating, breakups, divorces, I get very emotional and can even be aggressive. For example, if in front of me one person is judging relationship of another, I want to protect the person who has been judged, even if I don't know him. Or I can listen to some love story and cry because of that. I have a lot of fears related to love. I am afraid that I will stay single forever, that even if I meet someone, something will go wrong, or that I will never stop loving the man I was seeing for the past four years. So, as you can see, in this area I am pretty bad.
But little by little I get better and decrease the amount of fears. And here is what helps me:
1. Admitting my weakness. The only way you can work on your problems is to know them. To sit through them, without trying to numb them. You need to observe your own feelings and try to understand what affects you, what doesn't.
2. Don't blame others for your emotions. Your feelings are inside of you. The things that drives you crazy can have no impact on another person. It is all about your mind. Yes, sometimes we meet not nice people who can say mean things, but it is your job to learn how to handle any situation. And if you keep blaming others for your unpleasant sensations, you will depend on external events and your life will be much harder. When you are not blaming others it doesn't mean that you agree with their behavior, it just means that you don't give another person control over your well-being.
3. Look at your strength. We all have some areas in life that we already worked through, something that you don't worry about too much, area where even if something unpleasant happens, you still can stay calm. Try to watch yourself, how you act in these strong areas and mirror your own behavior. For example, I am very calm at work. I never argue with my boss or my co-workers. I don't have work related fears. And because of that I don't have troubles at work. So if I want to be more successful in relationships, I need to learn how to use my office experience and attitude in my love life.
4. Never blame yourself. When we get emotional, we act not in our best way. And after some silly arguments or actions we can feel stupid and blame ourselves. Well, there is no benefit of blaming yourself whatsoever! Just take it as a rule - no blaming. You are precious and amazing just the way you are! You have your talents, you have a gift that you bring to this world. And you work on your weaknesses not because you are not worthy or a bad person, you work on your weaknesses just to make your life easier and more pleasant. Please be kind and compassionate to yourself, especially when you are dealing with your weaknesses.
These are my simple rules. I still learning, still growing. I try to look at life as at a lesson with curiosity. And I know that the more I work on myself, the easier my life becomes!
Please take care of yourself, not for someone else, but just for yourself. There are a lot of things you can control, a lot of thing you can change. You can handle it, you can better it!
Be Strong And Love Yourself!
From Dasha With Love!
Love Wins!