Happiness Exercise For Couples.

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Here is the video for today's post: Happiness Exercise For Couples.

This week another thing happened to me. I didn't know what to write about. Usually ideas come to my mind without any problems. And this time I couldn't find the subject for my new blog post. So I decided just to share something that I learned from Posytive Psychology course that I took recently. That is why I am learning new things, because I need to share something with my dear readers!

So here is what I learned.

Marriage psychology is focused a lot on how partners need to make their fights less harmful. But positive psychology believes that the greatest source of happiness in marriage is based on the way partners celebrate good events together. So it means that if you want to have a happy marriage, you need to know the best way you can respond to good event.

There are four types of response. I will bring some examples which will help me to explain these types.

Imagine that your partner comes home and says, "I got a promotion". Now let's look at your options of response.

1. Active destructive response. He says that he got a promotion and you reply, "Oh no! Now you are going to be even busier! I won't see you at all. I hate your job!" This type of response is probably the worst one. It doesn't help to build good relationships and it makes existing relationships worse.

2. Passive destructive response. Again, he says that he got the promotion, and you say, "What do we have for dinner tonight?" In this case you don't say that promotion is something bad like in the first response, but you don't show any support or enthusiasm. This type of response doesn't promote a lot of positivity.

3. Passive constructive response. This type is very common. I was using it, when I had a boyfriend. When he tells you that he got a promotion you reply, "Oh, honey, you deserve it!" It sounds nice, but this type of response doesn't really change anything. It is not very helpful.

4. Active constructive response. He says that he got a promotion and you reply, "That's great! Tell me how did it happen? What exactly did your boss tell you? Did he mention how great you were at your role?" Why this response is better than others? Because when you ask these questions, you help your partner to relive the moment of his triumph! You bring back these positive emotions that he experienced when he got good news, and when we relive the emotions, they stay in our memory. This way you help your partner to build strong positive neuroconnections. The more often you do this, the more positivity will stay in his brain.

Next time, when you have a chance, try this simple exercise. You can do it not only with your husband or wife, but even with your child or co-worker, or your friend.

I hope it was interesting and helpful!

Please take care of yourself first and then take care of people you love!

Be Strong And Love Yourself!

From Dasha With Love!

Love Wins!