Don't Be Afraid Of Being Single

Hello my dear readers! I've been so happy lately. It feels like my life goes the way it should go. Maybe not always the way I want it to be, but I understand that sometimes I just want the wrong things, ha-ha.

I wasn't that happy in the past. I actually suffered a lot, for years and years. And the main reason of my pain was always rejection and difficult relationship. But it is all gone now and it feels so good! That is why I decided to make a post for someone who is going through a divorce or a breakup, who got recently rejected.

Here is the video for today's article: Don't Be Afraid Of Being Single.

I was so scared that I will not be able to be happy without a man. And since I got 21 years old I always was seeing someone. I spent about 10 years with my ex-husband, we would go through ups and downs but for a really short period of time. When I got divorced I almost immediately met another man. When he left me I met another one in two or three weeks. So as you can see I didn't really have a chance to understand what it felt like to be single, without any relationships. But about eight months ago I stopped seeing a man that I was seeing for about four years. At first I was extremely scared, I couldn't believe that happiness was possible without him. And it did take me a while until I was able to move on, it didn't happen immediately. But now, eight months later I am so happy like I probably was never before!

I feel so free, so satisfied, so positive and peaceful. And I started to think why? Why my life is so different now from what it used to be? And I realized that the main difference is that now I don't have any expectations. When I was in love with someone, I would always expect the object of my desire to come and save me from my fears, my problems, my difficulties. Even if the man that I love was clearly not ready to help, I would still expect him to. And these expectations are really hard to control. When you are seeing someone, they come to you unconsciously. And I was waiting and waiting for him to help me and he never did. And it made me so scared, I had so much pain.

But when I stopped seeing the man that I liked, my expectations little by little disappeared. And my suffering disappeared with them. Now I only rely on myself. And this situation made me much stronger, much more disciplined. And it had a huge positive effect on my life in general. I became more successful at work, I am much more confident and disciplined, I don't waste as much time and money on useless stuff as I used to. And it all happened because I understood that if I don't take care of myself, no one will. I simply don't have any other choice.

I am extremely grateful that I got this opportunity to learn how to be independent. The event that looked like the end of the world for me eight months ago now looks like the best thing that happened to me! I am free! And I know that I can handle everything, I know that I am very strong and I don't need a man to be happy. It doesn't mean that from now on I will never be in relationships again. If I meet someone who likes me and if I am attracted to him, I will be very happy. But at the same time, I am not desperately looking for anyone just because I don't know how to handle my fears.

So if you are going through the breakup, don't be afraid, use this opportunity to show yourself how strong you are. Work on your self-development, self-discipline, on your goals and at some point all pain will go away, and it will make you even better that you've been before!

Be Strong And Love Yourself!

From Dasha With Love!

Love Wins!