Emotional Intelligence
Hello! Thank you for reading my blog! Today I want to share some information about emotional intelligence. I applied this knowledge when it was needed and it helped me to manage some unpleasant situations. I hope it will help you too!
Here is the link to the video for my today's post: Emotional Intelligence.
Emotional Intelligence is the ability to recognize your emotions. There are four main parts of it, that you can focus on in order to become more emotionally intelligent.
1. Pay attention to the way you perceive your emotions. Try to notice how your emotions feel with within your body. Do they bring physical pain, or maybe some pleasant sensations. This will help you to recognize your emotions better, to notice them when they arise, and to take care of them faster.
2. Use your emotions. We often use positive emotions, like love, for example. When we are in love, we become kind, generous, compassionate. But you also can use your negative emotions. Yesterday I was very mad at myself for being stupid. I always act stupid when it comes to men. I need to work on this area of my life. But because I was mad at myself, I made a great progress with my sewing project! So I used my negative energy to do something good. Next time when you experience some unpleasant emotions, instead of just trying to get rid of them, try to turn them into something good.
3. Understand your emotions. When I say understand, I first of all mean to know the cause and consequences of your emotions. For example, if you know what situation can trigger anger within you, you might avoid this situation if you can. Or if you remember how your anger created some negative consequences for you, you might manage it better next time. Here is very simple example: I am not a huge fan of slow traffic. So I try to wake up early and come to the office before it becomes really bad. Or I take coffee and snacks with me and prepare audio book, so I don't get annoyed by slow speed. When you understand your emotions, you can be prepared for most of them. Of course there are things we cannot avoid, but it doesn't mean that you shouldn't try to make your life easier where you can, right!
4. Manage your emotions. It is very important part of emotional intelligence. It is kind of consists of the other parts that I just mentioned. If you want to manage your emotions, you need to learn how to recognize them, how to use them, how to understand them. But I also want to mention that managing your emotions is not the same as controlling them. Sometimes we try to escape negative emotions so hard that we only lose energy. The reality is that we cannot always control emotions, and there always be something unpleasant. But you can manage them in general. You can reduce the amount of negative emotions and increase the amount of positive ones. And this management is emotional intelligence. A lot of times we are so focused on getting rid of negative emotions that we forget to be thankful for positive, but we need to nourish them, to savor them.
Summary: notice how you perceive our emotions within your body, use them wisely, understand them (cause and consequence) and manage them, watch the balance between negative and positive emotions.
I hope you found this information useful and will try to apply it to your life :-) Next week I will post some details on how you can reduce your negative emotions. Stay tuned!
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