To Give Or Not To Give

Hi everyone! I hope you are doing well! I am going to have super relaxing day today, I've been working too hard lately :-)

This article will be short. I just want to share one of my mistakes and the lesson that I learned from it. I created my blog because I wanted to help other people who might be in similar situation as I have been. And I hope that my experience might be useful.

Here is the link to the video for this article: To Give Or Not To Give.

So the lesson that I learned sounds as follows, "Don't give something to someone who doesn't need it". The act of giving is beautiful and it suppose to make people happy. But if you are trying to give the gift that is useless for another person, you only will make him uncomfortable.

It happens often when we fall in love with someone. And we want to give everything we have to the person we love. But it doesn't mean that the object of your desires needs your gift. If you truly love someone, you should understand your beloved one and you should be focused on his needs rather than on your desire to feel needed.

If you are giving something because you want another person to depend on you, you want to create a sense of control, then it is not the right form of giving. It means you are doing it for yourself. Giving should be coming out of love, not out of fear of losing someone.

And the other mistake that we can do when we give, is when our gifts enable another person, when we don't let him to grow by protecting him too much or by supporting his wrong behavior. If you truly love someone, you should believe in his ability to figure things out without you, you should know that he is strong enough to overcome difficulties without your help.

In the end I want to add that this lesson was extremely important to me. When I realized that I was doing it wrong, I changed my life. I was not honest to myself for a really long period of time. Please be mindful and don't repeat my mistakes!

Be Strong And Love Yourself!

From Dasha With Love!

Love Wins!