What To Do If You Cannot Get What You Want

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I can't believe how fast the time goes by! Christmas is so close! This year I am going to visit my aunt and uncle and I am super excited! I am so luck that this whole year was really good for me and Christmas with my family will be an awesome completion for all the great things I've got in 2021!

Here is the link to the video for my today's article: What to do when you cannot get what you want.

But you know that even thou I am very happy with most of the things this year, there was always something that I couldn't get. I think that this is normal part of life. Sometimes we have desires that we cannot fulfil. But even if we cannot get what we want, it doesn't mean that we need to suffer. Dissatisfaction can be very upsetting and can take a lot of energy from you. But I developed some ideas that help me to stay positive even if I cannot achieve all of my goals.

So here are my ideas.

1. A new opportunity will come your way. When you cannot get wat you want it feels like you are losing the most important thing in life and that you will never have anything better than what is not achievable for you. But it is not true. Everyday new opportunities come our way. But if we hold on to old desires and if we cannot accept the fact of loss, we can't sometimes use the new better opportunities. Imagine that you invited guests to your house. And before they came over, you started to look through your old stuff and you were holding it when your friends' started to come over. They were trying to give you new gifts and you were just saying, "I am sorry, my hands are busy with my old stuff, I cannot take your new awesome gift". Of course it is just a metaphor, but I am sure you got the idea. If you think too much about something that you cannot get, you might miss more interesting opportunities.

2. You are not ready yet. Sometimes we accidently get something and lose it almost right away. I think it might happen because we weren't prepared for something. I tried to get a job in finance in 2014 and 2015 and was not able to. Then I got a promotion in Business Operations department and built some good reputation by working hard. At the same time I kept learning finance, read books, took classes and when another opportunity came my way in 2021 I finally got a job of my dreams! :-) And it happened partly because I was lucky, but partly because I tried to prepare myself to this new opportunity. Another example that comes to my mind is relationships. I am single for several years already. And I think that I needed this years to learn how to be independent and strong. Now I feel that I am ready for relationships and I am sure I will meet a boyfriend soon. I just have this feeling you know. If I will, I will share it in my blog. :-)

3. What you want is not good for you. Sometimes we want something that actually doesn't help us to grow and only makes us weaker. For example, think of a child that wants a lot of candies. If he just keep eating sweets, he can end up with diabetes and suffer his whole life. So caring parent can take away some sweets from their child. The same way some of our desires can be bad and they are taken away from us by life itself. I personally wanted to date wrong guys only because they were very handsome. But they didn't value me and were not good for me. So the fact that I wasn't able to be with them in a long run was a good thing for me.

These are my three simple ideas. I really like them and I hope you will find them helpful as well!

In the end I want to say that if you cannot get what you want, it doesn't mean that you should give up all your dreams and feel like a loser. Just try to stay focus on your personal development and things that you can control. And try not to chase something that you can't control. It's all about mindfulness and right balance! :-)

You are the master of your own life!

Be Strong And Love Yourself!

From Dasha With Love!

Love Wins!